How early is too early to send invitations?

More than 12 weeks out and guests set it aside and forget. That's what save-the-dates are for — send those 6–8 months ahead instead.

What if we're sending invitations late?

Mail them tomorrow. Shorten the RSVP window to 2–3 weeks and text or call anyone who might travel. People understand, and most weddings survive a rushed send fine.

What RSVP deadline should we set?

Four weeks before the wedding. That gives you a week to chase stragglers and still hit the caterer's final-count deadline with room to spare.

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When should you send wedding invitations?

Q: When should you send wedding invitations?

Send wedding invitations 6–8 weeks before your wedding; 10–12 weeks for destination weddings. Set the RSVP deadline about 4 weeks before the wedding so caterers and seating have time to breathe.

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Six to eight weeks is the sweet spot for a reason. Any sooner and the invitation slides under a stack of mail and out of mind. Any later and you're chasing RSVPs while the caterer waits for a final count. Give guests a month to check calendars and reply, and give yourself a month after that to close the seating chart calmly.

For a destination wedding, mail 10–12 weeks ahead. Anyone booking flights, requesting time off, or arranging childcare needs the extra runway. Include hotel-block details, airport suggestions, and a plain-English arrival day — a wedding website link is fine, but the printed card should still make sense to a grandparent.

If the wedding is under six weeks away, don't panic. Send digital invitations tomorrow, then follow with a paper card for anyone who prefers one. Shorten the RSVP window to 2–3 weeks and text or call the guests most likely to need travel notice. A late invitation with warmth is far better than a perfect one that never gets mailed.

A quiet checklist before you drop them in the mailbox: proof the date, time, and address twice; confirm the RSVP deadline lands 4 weeks before the wedding; order 10–15 extras for keepsakes and forgotten cousins; and weigh a sample at the post office — square envelopes and thick paper often need extra postage. Then walk to the mailbox together. That part is nice.

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